How to Ask Someone to Be Your Maid of Honor
Asking your best friend to be your maid of honor is a special moment. Here is how to make them feel as important as they are to you.
Personal and Heartfelt
RecommendedOkay [Name], I need to ask you something important. You have been my person through everything -- the good, the bad, the ugly crying on your couch, all of it. I cannot imagine getting married without you right next to me. Will you be my maid of honor? I promise to keep bridezilla moments to a minimum. Mostly.
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
directHey [Name], I am getting married and I want you to be my maid of honor. You are my person and I cannot do this without you. Say yes!
Warmer Version
warmHey [Name], okay I am going to try not to cry while typing this but no promises. From [specific memory] to staying up until 3am talking about life, you have been there through literally everything. I can not imagine walking down that aisle without you right beside me. Will you be my maid of honor? I promise snacks, crying, and the best speech of your life.
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When to Use This
Ask when: - You have decided on your wedding party - You want to ask before the rest of the bridal party - Your friendship is strong and they would be excited - You are ready to make it feel special
What Not to Say
Avoid: - Asking multiple people at the same time - Making it feel like an obligation - Assuming they can afford the financial commitment - Not being open to them saying no - Asking over a group chat