What to Text a Friend Who Is Going Through a Crisis
When a friend is in crisis, you do not need the perfect words. You just need to show up. Here is how.
Unconditional Support
RecommendedHey, I am here. You do not have to explain anything or put on a brave face. If you want to talk, I am listening. If you want company, I will come over. If you want to be left alone, I will check in tomorrow. Whatever you need right now, I am not going anywhere.
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
directI am here. Tell me what you need. I can listen, I can come over, or I can just sit with you. You do not have to do this alone.
Warmer Version
warmHey, I just want you to know that whatever you are going through, you have me. You do not have to explain anything or have it together. I am not going anywhere. If you want to talk, I am here. If you want silence, I will just be nearby. You are loved and you are not alone in this.
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When to Use This
Send this when: - A friend is going through a breakup, loss, health scare, or major life crisis - You do not know what to say but want them to feel supported - They have gone quiet and you are worried - You want to offer help without being overbearing
What Not to Say
Avoid: - "Everything happens for a reason" - "Look on the bright side" - Making it about a time you went through something similar - Giving unsolicited advice - Disappearing after the initial message
Follow-Up Message
If You Need to Follow Up
A few days later: "Just checking in. No need to respond if you do not feel like it. Just want you to know I am thinking about you."