How to Ask Someone to Be Exclusive by Text
You want to define the relationship. Here is how to have the "are we official?" conversation without sounding desperate or presumptuous.
Confident and Clear
RecommendedHey, so I have been really enjoying what we have, and honestly I am not interested in seeing anyone else. I do not want to assume anything, but I wanted to ask -- are you feeling the same way? I would love for this to be just us.
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
directHey, I like you and I am not seeing anyone else. Are we on the same page?
Warmer Version
warmOkay so I have been wanting to say this for a minute. Every time we hang out, I leave smiling. I deleted my apps weeks ago because honestly nobody else compares. I do not want to assume anything, but I would really love it if this was just us. How do you feel?
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When to Use This
Ask this when: - You have been dating consistently for weeks or months - The chemistry and connection are strong - You are genuinely ready for a commitment - They have shown signs of wanting the same thing
What Not to Say
Avoid: - Asking after the first date - Making it sound like a contract negotiation - Saying "what are we" without saying what you want - Pressuring them to decide on the spot - Having this conversation when either of you is stressed or tired