How to Ask Someone to Be Your Plus-One to an Event
Wedding season, galas, work events -- you need a date. Here is how to ask someone in a way that is flattering without being too intense.
Casual Plus-One Invite
RecommendedHey [Name]! So I have a [wedding / company event / fundraiser] coming up on [date] and I get a plus-one. I immediately thought of you -- would you want to come with me? It should be really fun. [Brief detail -- open bar, great food, live band, it is at a cool venue.] No pressure at all if you can not make it!
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
directHey [Name], I have a [event] on [date] and I need a plus-one. Want to come?
Warmer Version
warmHey [Name], okay so I have this [event] coming up on [date] and honestly the first person I thought of asking was you. It should be a really good time -- [detail]. Would you want to be my date? No pressure!
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When to Use This
Use this when: - You have a genuine rapport with this person - The event is appropriate for a date or friend - You are giving them enough advance notice - You are okay if they say no
What Not to Say
Avoid: - Making it sound like a desperate last resort - Asking the day before the event - Saying "everyone else said no" - Being unclear about whether it is a date or friends thing - Adding pressure about meeting family or coworkers