Dating
How to Text Someone to Ask Where This Is Going
When you need clarity about a relationship, here's how to have "the talk" without being pushy.
Define The Relationship
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Hey, I've been really enjoying our time together and I wanted to check in with you. I'm wondering where you see this going? I'm [interested in something more serious / happy to keep things casual / just want to be on the same page]. No pressure - just want to make sure we're both on the same page about what we want.
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
direct
This is a more direct, straightforward version of the message.
Friendlier Version
warm
This is a warmer, more casual version of the message.
When to Use This
Use this when you've been seeing someone regularly for a few weeks/months and want clarity.
What Not to Say
Don't demand a relationship. Don't send this after just one or two dates. Don't be accusatory.