How to Tell Your Boss You Have Another Job Offer
Telling your boss about a competing offer is a high-stakes conversation. Done right, it can lead to a counteroffer. Done wrong, it can backfire. Here is how to handle it.
Honest and Professional Approach
RecommendedHi [Manager Name], I wanted to have an honest conversation with you about something. I have received an offer from another company for a role that [brief appeal - offers more responsibility / is in an area I want to grow in / represents a significant compensation increase]. I want to be transparent because I genuinely value my role here and the work we do together. Before making any decision, I wanted to see if there is an opportunity to discuss my growth and compensation at [Company Name]. I am not making any demands. I just feel I owe you the honesty of having this conversation before deciding. Would you have time to talk this week? Best, [Your Name]
Subject Line
Request for a Conversation - [Your Name]
Alternative Versions
More Direct Version
directHi [Manager], I have received an offer from another company. Before making any decision, I wanted to have an honest conversation with you about my future here. Can we meet this week? [Your Name]
Warmer Version
warmHi [Manager], this is not an easy email to write because I genuinely love working here. I have received an outside offer, and while my first instinct is to stay, I want to be open with you about where I am. I would rather have this conversation with you than make a decision in the dark. Can we find time to talk? [Your Name]
Formal Version
professionalDear [Manager Name], I am writing to request a meeting to discuss my career trajectory at [Company]. I have been approached with an external opportunity and, given my commitment to this team, I want to explore whether there is a path forward here that aligns with my professional growth. I value your leadership and would appreciate your candid perspective. Best regards, [Your Name]
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When to Use This
Use this when: - You actually have a real, written offer - You genuinely want to stay if things improve - You have a strong relationship with your boss - You are prepared for any outcome, including them saying no
What Not to Say
Avoid: - Bluffing about an offer you do not have - Using it as a threat or ultimatum - Sharing this with coworkers before your boss - Doing this more than once in a short period - Expecting an immediate counter -- give them time